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Post by Farsibella on Sept 16, 2009 15:30:10 GMT 2
Ok, maybe you noticed with the recent events with my job (BTW I noticed a mistake today and I almost collapsed), but I wrote to boss, said sorry, I just added this which was missing... Okay, but this is different. SOMETIMES men laugh when I walk by. And the question in my head is: 1. Do they laugh cause they find me ugly? 2. Do they laugh cause they are telling each other "oh, I would do her" and stuff like that that men say... It never happens with women, it never happens when men are alone, IT ONLY happens when they are in a group of around 3 people and then are talking among themselves. AND I HATE IT!! AND IT DRIVES ME MENTAL THAT THEY ARE LAUGHING AT ME!! And it destroys my self esteem...  |
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Post by happytraveller on Sept 16, 2009 15:44:57 GMT 2
I don't know about number two Farsi, as I don't know what goes on in some mens heads but they definately don't think you are ugly !!!
You.Are.Not.Ugly!
you are very cute !
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Post by pepecura on Sept 16, 2009 15:53:46 GMT 2
I agree, there is no way that you could be ugly.
I understand it is very disturbing to see a group of people looking and laughing at you...I dont know anybody who would not find this disturbing, it is, but do know that when those men are in group, they make fun of everything, it is not you, it is them and just their mood. Jerks.
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Post by Pot Watcher on Sept 16, 2009 15:54:18 GMT 2
Men in a group often behave like a bunch of (insert word here)
It is not you, you are beautiful! They are probably playing that stoopid game where they give you marks out of 10 and I bet you always get 8/9/10!!
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Post by happytraveller on Sept 16, 2009 15:55:45 GMT 2
Ignore them Farsi ! They are not worth the worry !
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Post by Pot Watcher on Sept 16, 2009 15:57:17 GMT 2
Farsi, are you finding that having a few checks in place is helping you to cope a bit better at work?
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Post by Farsibella on Sept 16, 2009 16:03:17 GMT 2
Ok, I guess, yes, they just act like jerks when they are with other men. Usually, it is all compliments, but once a month or so, I get this laughs and I hate it  The checks, yeah, they work!!! Except that agenda part that I didn't write down in the notebook but in a paper and I forgot to add it :/ But ok, the rest is ok, I think, I have donw good work these last two days. And I am resting well, cause today I woke up like before, without the sound of the alarm clock, while for the last few months, I just kept sleeping through the alarm souding.  |
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Post by siduri on Sept 16, 2009 21:32:44 GMT 2
Don't be daft, Farsi! Just ignore such guys. When I lived in Istanbul I got plenty of unwanted attention e.g. most women there do. Best thing is to zoom out and ignore or you end up getting really worked up too many times.
Btw. I had this 'syndrom' up until a couple of years ago that whenever people were near me and started laughing I was convinced they were makeing fun of me. For sure they didn't, it was my self-esteem issues playing tricks to my mind. Once I was able to realise that, it enabled me to relax and put things into perspective.
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Post by Grecian on Sept 16, 2009 22:06:06 GMT 2
"oh, I would do her" fits the bill.....
You are an attractive Female..ok?...
..You are bound to get looks...just accept it...and stop yer moaning!
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Post by Ethel Mertz on Sept 16, 2009 22:58:18 GMT 2
Farsi, you know the words machismo and bravado. I think some guys are full of both because of their OWN lack of self esteem.
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Post by Grecian on Sept 16, 2009 23:00:27 GMT 2
..Whatever that Shite means....Talk sense next time, Eth'....
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Post by Farsibella on Sept 16, 2009 23:01:07 GMT 2
Yeah, I think they are just people who lack self esteem, but well, it is weird.
Grecian, I am not moaning, it affects me!
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Post by Grecian on Sept 16, 2009 23:09:29 GMT 2
take care, farsi...
I'm orf...Can't be bothered with this Shite...
Speak soon...
Nice one, Ethel! You've certainly Fucked me off enough for me to Pi55 Orf!
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Post by Big Iain on Sept 16, 2009 23:15:57 GMT 2
Well done Ethel. And Farsi, you will be fine!
Take your moods elsewhere Grecs.
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Post by Grecian on Sept 16, 2009 23:19:10 GMT 2
.....Get real, Iain...
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Post by Big Iain on Sept 16, 2009 23:21:21 GMT 2
stick to one thread, you drunken oik! There is no need to pollute the whole site like you are so fond of doing
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Post by Grecian on Sept 16, 2009 23:39:53 GMT 2
..Like I said above, iain....
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Post by starfire on Sept 17, 2009 0:33:24 GMT 2
Farsi, don't get paranoid! Men are basically dicks who try to out-do eachother; they are probably competing for who would do what to you sexually.
Don't let it bother you, hun.
X
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Post by Grecian on Sept 17, 2009 0:57:06 GMT 2
'they are probably competing for who would do what to you sexually'....
Yeah, RIGHT! Farsi really wants to hear that Shit??....
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Post by Farsibella on Sept 17, 2009 1:20:46 GMT 2
Oh well, there are more of them than I thought...
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Post by Grecian on Sept 17, 2009 1:45:29 GMT 2
..Barking....
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Post by welle on Sept 17, 2009 10:56:25 GMT 2
Men in a group often behave like a bunch of (insert word here) It is not you, you are beautiful! They are probably playing that stoopid game where they give you marks out of 10 and I bet you always get 8/9/10!! Yep, if indeed they are talking about you (and that is a big big if), then the above would be my obvious conclusion. |
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Post by Farsibella on Sept 17, 2009 20:52:38 GMT 2
I have my ugly days too, and when I feel ugly, and sometimes I do, people seem to notice, or I seem to take stares personally... I don't know. :/ Anyway, thanks! And I feel better today. |
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