Geeky

[happytraveller]

Well, the other admin was quite shocked at Geekys reply in Annies thread and so yes, the other admin agrees with all above.

[Big Iain]

all grief is handled in different ways by different people. I was disgusted by what was written in AA's truth thread. I am not ever going to fully come to terms with my loss last year, and I will for sure be losing my father soon too.

No-one can tell me how to stack my grief, or how much it should hurt, or when to get over it.

You know where I stand on certain peoples appologies. This site is used as only a kicking post by some people.

[auntieannie]

I have taken good note of Grecian's post and of the fact our friendship is no more. Thank you for your support.

[writeon]

To the Mods.

I have been offline for a day and only just read the Annie/Geeky threads.
I must go out now until late this evening but I do intend to reply to this thread but I wish to give myself time to think things over. I want to try to give a fair opinion.

[quixote]

I read the comment made and although I don't know the people concerned it was obvious from it's content that it was a mean spirited and thoughtless remark to make about anyone's loss.
I lost a brother in 1989 and the impact this has had on me and my life was(is) profound.
Someone recently who was close to my brother brought up some things about his death and my reaction was the same as if his death had happened yesterday.
My thoughts are with you and all those effected by this cruel comment Auntie Annie.
Mean people suck.

[writeon]

There's more to all this than meets the eye....still waters run deep.

[suzanneschuelke]

The response bothered me so much that it made me sick to my stomach. My deepest loss to date was a friend who was killed in a fire in 1979. I still grieve for him and always, always will and imagine what he would have grown into (he was 18). AuntieAnne my heart goes out to you whenever the loss and please know that the rest of us appreciate the pain that response must have cost you. It is a sad thing when someone seems to get pleasure from hurting others - even people he can't see.

[welle]

Sept 30, 2009 14:26:49 GMT 2 suzanneschuelke said:

AuntieAnne my heart goes out to you whenever the loss and please know that the rest of us appreciate the pain that response must have cost you. It is a sad thing when someone seems to get pleasure from hurting others - even people he can't see.

What Suzanne said. She put it better than I could, I was struggling with the wording.

[quixote]

Sept 30, 2009 14:04:05 GMT 2 @writeon said:

There's more to all this than meets the eye....still waters run deep.

Good point. My initial reaction was pure gut and I'm usually right on with that but, I would like to reserve total judgement of this person until those involved have some healthy perspective.
Regardless,it was pretty thoughtless. People need to be more considerate of others and how it MIGHT affect them when they post.

[suzanneschuelke]

I am sure that geeky has issues that this tied into and I am sure that he hurts too (or he couldn't be so hurtful) - but he still is an adult that needs to know that pain inflicted like that lingers.

[OnlyMark]

I've obviously not been on here much and I never saw what Geeky said.
However, I expect it is in his usual style and I agree with Iain on the standard of his apologies.
A number of factors cause me at the moment to devote less time here than I would like, one of them, however minor, is that whenever I see a post by Geeky I just want to smack him hard.

[Voy]

well - he's been flushed. so you can come on alllll the branches but that one - so please do stop by when you can!

[happytraveller]

Bugger ! We're working on it.

[Voy]

?? - but Geeky was able to post in the Truth-Annie thread?

[Grecian]

..I Love you too, Mark...

I really was astounded to log in tonight and see this OP about me, to be honest...

There have been a few choice posts on AA in the Hot Seat that have been deleted and no doubt the Mods have access to them as this whole sorry affair is incredulous...

Just where do I start??....

Let's start on Facebook, shall we?....AA posted some French status thing and the only word I recognised was 'Sandra' so I put the expression into a translater and i found out that AA was missing said Sandra. I posted there asking why she missed Sandra?...ok so far...

AA then posts twice; the first time to explain that Sandra was her cousin and that she died 7 years ago and then, barely 6 minutes after, to slag me right off for being a "Insensitive" and a "TWAT"....straight off ......Like everyone, at this stage, knows who Sandra is?

I replied saying that If I had known that, I would have replied with various condolences etc....anyway...eventually AA apologised to me. I posted "Cool"...

I assume that is all on Facebook still, AA?

The same evening, I happen to notice that AA is in the HotSeat at the Pot so I thought I wouldn't post an inane question like "Can you Ski?"...or "What is your favourite food?"...

I asked how long do you think that you will keep grieving over Sandra's death?"...words to that effect as I am not quoting here....as the posts have been deleted!....I also mentioned that the other questions were fascile and I really thought that my question was more thought provoking?...

I then notice that Sneaky Iain has snuck in with a post asking if AA finds me as much of a To55er as he finds me - that is one of the few posts still left...

His post there will cause ruptions later....

So...AA responds....

From memory, she posts that losing a Cousin - 7 years ago - is like losing your son (Not too sure at this juncture whether she mentioned my Son by name or not..)

A couple of posts on, AA suddenly gets interested in Iain's post and then accuses me of being an Alcoholic - right out of the blue - C&P and all that about losing brain cells and sexual impotence....

I am still studying the English Libel laws over that post, to be honest....

Now - I assume you are interested in what I responded to that - hence the OP here?

The post has gone but it was so along the lines that you can never equate the loss of a Cousin to your own child; that AA should look up her sad friends that knit down at the Picture House in Exeter and that she could go forth and multiply?...Tell me the missing words there?...

What pi55ed me off the most was the fact that AA assumes that she "knows" me?

She posted the pathetic post about me being an "Alcoholic" where as she has only ever seen me have 3 pints of Young's Special when we used to go for a drink after work in Exeter?

The fact that I was so annoyed at her posts and now she is claiming the High Ground??? Incredible!

Please tell me where I've fucked up on this one as I get the impression, with the deleted posts, that this is a Witch Hunt...or else every female on here has cyncronised and PMT is at its height...

(I hate long posts...)

[Big Iain]

You need to take a good long look at your consistent contributions here, Grecs. You can be a great bloke to talk with on the one hand, but recently all you have done is come on here and spout filth for which you have to come back and appologise. You take pleasure in being antisocial. There are places that you can go to have antisocial name-calling arguments. I for one do not want it right now.
Maybe you will become that nice bloke again in this place?

[OnlyMark]

*smack*

[Grecian]

Slam Dunks Mark!

Iain?..I hear what you are saying there...and I tend to agree..but You have been a bit of a To55er as well?....

Your post has no relevence to the hassle above so I will thank you, raise a glass and Salute you but...

Be on your way, now...

I am waiting to hear from AA or the Mods that banished me to here without my considered response above....

[auntieannie]

I am not going to answer this, Grecian. I don't think I need to.

[Big Iain]

"I then notice that Sneaky Iain has snuck in with a post asking if AA finds me as much of a To55er as he finds me - that is one of the few posts still left..."

Yeah, twist it on to me. Like any bully... you highlight the one post that I have dared to give you a tiny bit of stick in. I can picture you in the headmaster's study weeping "But siiiiiiir, it was the other boys, not meeeeeeee!"

Maybe your fanclub can't see it mate, but online you are foulmouthed bully. Do not try and blame one of my posts for two weeks of your late night destructive rubbish. Enjoy your new home.

END OF!

[Grecian]

I really was astounded to log in tonight and see this OP about me, to be honest...

There have been a few choice posts on AA in the Hot Seat that have been deleted and no doubt the Mods have access to them as this whole sorry affair is incredulous...

Just where do I start??....

Let's start on Facebook, shall we?....AA posted some French status thing and the only word I recognised was 'Sandra' so I put the expression into a translater and i found out that AA was missing said Sandra. I posted there asking why she missed Sandra?...ok so far...

AA then posts twice; the first time to explain that Sandra was her cousin and that she died 7 years ago and then, barely 6 minutes after, to slag me right off for being a "Insensitive" and a "TWAT"....straight off ......Like everyone, at this stage, knows who Sandra is?

I replied saying that If I had known that, I would have replied with various condolences etc....anyway...eventually AA apologised to me. I posted "Cool"...

I assume that is all on Facebook still, AA?

The same evening, I happen to notice that AA is in the HotSeat at the Pot so I thought I wouldn't post an inane question like "Can you Ski?"...or "What is your favourite food?"...

I asked how long do you think that you will keep grieving over Sandra's death?"...words to that effect as I am not quoting here....as the posts have been deleted!....I also mentioned that the other questions were fascile and I really thought that my question was more thought provoking?...

I then notice that Sneaky Iain has snuck in with a post asking if AA finds me as much of a To55er as he finds me - that is one of the few posts still left...

His post there will cause ruptions later....

So...AA responds....

From memory, she posts that losing a Cousin - 7 years ago - is like losing your son (Not too sure at this juncture whether she mentioned my Son by name or not..)

A couple of posts on, AA suddenly gets interested in Iain's post and then accuses me of being an Alcoholic - right out of the blue - C&P and all that about losing brain cells and sexual impotence....

I am still studying the English Libel laws over that post, to be honest....

Now - I assume you are interested in what I responded to that - hence the OP here?

The post has gone but it was so along the lines that you can never equate the loss of a Cousin to your own child; that AA should look up her sad friends that knit down at the Picture House in Exeter and that she could go forth and multiply?...Tell me the missing words there?...

What pi55ed me off the most was the fact that AA assumes that she "knows" me?

She posted the pathetic post about me being an "Alcoholic" where as she has only ever seen me have 3 pints of Young's Special when we used to go for a drink after work in Exeter?

The fact that I was so annoyed at her posts and now she is claiming the High Ground??? Incredible!


Oh YES!!!!...You so do Fucking NEED TO reply to this, AA...!

You see...you are the Major Problem here....You....YOU!....

Now you be a sensible Woman and reply to my Post above....

*PLEASE* ....

[OnlyMark]

Oct 1, 2009 0:03:59 GMT 2 Grecian said:

Oh YES!!!!...You so do Fucking NEED TO reply to this, AA...!

You see...you are the Major Problem here....You....YOU!....

You really think she is the problem?

[welle]

*frantically searches for the scroll button*

[goldie]

Geeky is obviously no lawyer.
(Someone who gives a f-k please explain to him what 'libel laws' are).
But why get drawn into bad-mouthing him? That's obviously what he thrives on. Just ignore him - or reply politely. If he can't get a rise out of anyone he'll soon stop cos it won't be 'fun' anymore.
Oh, sure, he'll most likely get worse and worse for a bit, but if we're all civilised (and I'm sure most of us would like to think we are) he'll find it far, far too boring and most likely sod off back to wherever he came from - if they'll have him.

[Hedonista]

Maybe HT and Gobs should rename this forum as the Squabbling Pot (no offense meant to HT or Gobs here). As a relative outsider (although most of you know me vaguely from TTGS, TTR etc) I find this all very childish. The reason I post is to have fun taking about food and life in general.
In Geeky's defense, although he has slagged me off a couple of times in the past, I think he contributes more than most to make these threads entertaining, even if we do not all appreciate his humour or lack of sensitivity sometimes.
Why not just delete all this bollocks and let everyone make a fresh start?

[writeon]

I drink to that.

[Big Iain]

I think he contributes more than most to make these threads entertaining, even if we do not all appreciate his humour or lack of sensitivity sometimes.

Sorry Hedonistic, but assuming that this was a genuine opinion then either you or I are on the wrong forum. Geeky has contributed NOTHING constructive to any thread I can recall since this Pot opened for business.

[Pot Watcher]

Grecain

Thank you for taking the time to respond to this OP.

To start with we would like to explain to you why we felt it necessary to delete certain posts and content yesterday. The truth thread clearly states that it is an opportunity to get know each other better and that it is not the equivalent of the “Hot Seat”. Your question compromised the spirit of the thread. However, having said that, we apologise for deleting your thread and content without discussing it with you first. Neither of us have moderated a forum before, and to be honest this was our first big challenge and we can most certainly learn from the way that we dealt with it and any future situations.

The reason that a separate OP was made was to try and remove it from the The Truth thread and to give you an opportunity to discuss why you felt it appropriate to ask such a sensitive question in such a harsh way, instead you responded defensively, another lesson learnt by the mods of this forum and in future we will find different ways to try and deal with issues such as this, so we apologise if the OP made you feel singled out in any way.

With respect to the decision to Flush you, this was not an easy decision for the admins to make, we really hoped that you would come the The Pot and try and post within the spirit of what the forum was intended, a place for a bunch of people who have got to know each other over the last 2 years, could hang out, catch up and talk shit and sometimes bear our hurts and pain. A lot of us are dealing with a lot of real life crap/grief/sadness/challenges at the moment and we all just need a place “Where everyone knows your name (and shit)” and despite giving you the benefit of the doubt over the last few weeks, it is clear that you have a different idea of what you would like from a forum. Therefore, we have given you your own board, gloves are off and this board will not be moderated so anyone that enters, enters at their own risk.

We have made in clear that we are open to suggestions from any member of the board (including you) on how to keep this a fun, respectful place for everyone and we certainly hope that one day, you will feel that you want to participate in the main boards of this forum in the spirit intended.

HT and Gobs

[Hedonista]

Iain, I have not really seen much of what he posted during these first couple of weeks on here, but i'm talking about the last couple of years on LPTT and TTR

[Big Iain]

That's fair comment, Hedonist. I accept that over the last few years Grecs has been good company for quite a lot of the time. I have been jousting with Grecian for years too.