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Post by auntieannie on Dec 25, 2023 20:36:38 GMT 2
Listening to a lady on a youtube channel, I realised I am a bad person!
i.e. If someone says/does something that hurts me, I don't sort it out straight away. I keep it in and let it fester.
I will try and get better at that. However, I feel it doesn't always work better/it's not always possible to talk things through.
Does the above even make sense ?
What's your attitude when someone says something that's hurtful to you ?
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Post by lumi on Dec 25, 2023 21:04:36 GMT 2
I don't think that makes you a bad person, Annie. That makes you someone who judges each situation individually (I am assuming there are times you may indicate that someone's comment wasn't reasonable) and understands that it isn't always helpful to actually say something. You're actually likely putting the feelings/needs of someone else above your own. I am like that too and don't think that it makes me a bad person. Yes, I should stand up for myself on more occasions, but I also recognise that doing so may escalate a situation or make me feel more uncomfortable, so staying quiet is the easier option. I feel like stating otherwise is co fro tational, even though I recognise that it isn't if said correctly, but that is how it makes me feel.
We are indiciduals and there are far worse traits that would make us candidates for being bad people, in my opinion.
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Post by auntieannie on Dec 25, 2023 22:37:44 GMT 2
love you, luminette !
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Post by slowcoach on Dec 26, 2023 7:25:57 GMT 2
Go back to the Youtube lady and inform the malign bitch that she ain't entitled to swan about hurting people, particularly people she has never met and knows diddlysquat about.
We Love You.
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Post by shrjeff on Dec 26, 2023 7:58:32 GMT 2
what slow said!
in my lexicon, 'bad person' is someone who intentionally hurts another...
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Post by auntieannie on Dec 26, 2023 19:23:19 GMT 2
ah... the lady on youtube was not talking to me. She was talking about something that happened to her and about someone who was holding grudges about something that they never mentionned to the other person.
And I kinda saw a reflection of me in that. I'd be delighted to better myself and find ways of expressing myself directly when I need to. but it's not really in my makeup, so I'd need to work on it steadily.
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Post by tzarine on Feb 8, 2024 10:55:09 GMT 2
it totally depends
sometimes, a mere f%uck off will do
othertimes, i wonder why someone would do that to hurt someone. what hurt them in the past to make them that cruel
others,it just slides off
w bosses, i laugh it off bc i know exactly what they are doing.
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