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Post by tzarine on Sept 25, 2018 22:36:45 GMT 2
what is the “massive, freakish internal infection” that took out tiger mommy (awful book) self promoter amy chua all year @ yale? or was it the dreaded kavanaughitis? & that guardian article which suggested she sent pretty law clerks to the kster
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Post by sophie on Sept 26, 2018 18:14:12 GMT 2
That, Tzarine, could sink what there is of her media presence. She was awful on Bill Maher a few months back.
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Post by tzarine on Sept 26, 2018 20:37:39 GMT 2
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Post by tzarine on Sept 28, 2018 20:41:57 GMT 2
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Post by auntieannie on Sept 28, 2018 22:27:20 GMT 2
today, i learned how ugly frightened patriarchy looks.
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Post by tzarine on Oct 2, 2018 22:09:55 GMT 2
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Post by Voy on Oct 3, 2018 23:38:09 GMT 2
that oxycodone works, and that i still hate it
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Post by auntieannie on Oct 4, 2018 10:00:29 GMT 2
are you feeling woosey, Voy?
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Post by Scrubb on Oct 4, 2018 17:34:03 GMT 2
That sometimes things you think are extremely clear, are not extremely clear to others.
I guess I already knew that, but it was reinforced.
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Post by Voy on Oct 4, 2018 18:44:34 GMT 2
yep, amd if not a bit woozy...asleep. down to half dose..yay
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Post by lumi on Oct 5, 2018 6:36:46 GMT 2
I've learned that there's nothing I'm doing 'wrong' with respect to getting my baby to sleep, my boy simply is a more wakeful child who needs help to fall asleep and often again each time when he wakes up during the night.
I say this after observing other parents and their similarly aged babies on our 12 hour flight to Europe. One baby didn't stir for a full 10 hours and another for 8 hours. Both went back to sleep readily after that as well. But the parents did nothing different to me and my husband and in fact, our boy was full of smiles whereas their babies, while looking around, didn't show happiness much at all (maybe still sleepy?). I was so jealous though that those parents were able to sleep themselves, watch movies, enjoy wine etc. But my little guy is a delight, so I'll keep Nespresso in business until he goes back to sleeping well again.
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Post by Scrubb on Oct 5, 2018 7:59:43 GMT 2
I think you're right, lumi, that some babies just sleep well and some babies just don't. I mean, of course there are little things that might help a bit, or sometimes, but no secret tricks that are guaranteed. One of the posters on another forum said her daughter didn't sleep through the night until she was 2 and I'm sure she tried everything possible to get her to sleep!
A lot of my friends have said it changed really suddenly - that after months of poor sleep or frequent wakings, suddenly the baby just slept through the night, and it stayed that way with the rare exception. I hope that for you.
This thread made me remember one little boy I used to babysit. I would rock him to sleep, then when I put him in his crib he'd always cry a bit - I think it was the transition to the cold sheets after being so cosy with me. But I'd rub his back for a while and he'd settle and go back to sleep. Then he'd usually wake up a couple of hours later but sometimes if I just rubbed his back again, for 15 minutes or so, he'd go back to sleep. (Not if he was wet or hungry, of course.) I liked those nights with him - the first time I looked after him, he was only about 6 weeks old and I babysat him until he was about 5 or 6, when his big sister was old enough to take over.
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Post by lumi on Oct 5, 2018 10:05:55 GMT 2
Scrubb, our boy was a magical sleeper from very early on. I was waking him diligently to feed every couple of hours until his paediatrician said not to do that in the night anymore and wait until he wakes himself wanting to feed. Almost immediately he then slept through the night. But at around 4 months, precisely when we took our first trip (to Australia), his sleep changed dramatically and he wakes a couple to several times a night.
I've tried settling him while he is in the cot but he cries even louder then as I guess he is annoyed knowing I am there yet not giving him the cuddles he wants/needs. I thought it would have gotten better by now but unfortunately it hasn't. I do keep hoping however that it will suddenly improve but at least he is a cheery little guy, even on days when he hasn't gotten enough sleep. Better that than a baby who cries all the time or doesn't have a happy disposition.
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Post by tzarine on Oct 6, 2018 3:34:32 GMT 2
lumi so true about having a cheery baby rather than one who cries all the time. here there has been a return to the ferber cry it out method of getting your baby to sleep. it's a controversial topic
sophie, i learned that tiger mommy & her hubby are rather terrible people in many respects. he was being investigated for inappropriate sexual activity. this comes from would be interns & people in the ivy league legal world
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Post by lumi on Oct 6, 2018 9:06:07 GMT 2
Although the cry it out methods is controversial, I've learned that it's only accepted to state your stance or choice if you are approving of it. At least where I live. I find that so ridiculous. I just sit silently when people talk about it as it seems I am not welcome to even politely disagree with the concept let alone say that I don't/won't do it. I've been told that it is my only option, with the implication that I am deserving of being sleepless and tired by not choosing to leave my baby cry until he wears himself down.
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Post by tzarine on Oct 7, 2018 19:00:08 GMT 2
lumi, that's awful not to be able to disagree! i have been at friends' homes & have had to sit through an hour or more of their child doing the cry it out in the next room!
in the past have picked up strangers' babies on planes, soothed them & have the mom wonder what magic trick i was using
i learned that so many people who post slogans on fb should probably stop & go & live their lives
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Post by rikita on Oct 12, 2018 10:52:51 GMT 2
i'm glad that cry it out didn't seem very common among the moms and dads with whom i hung out when a. was little ... was a bit shocked when i learned that my dad and his wife used at least some of it with my little brother, though - he was always a good sleeper, so i suppose it worked because he already had the tendency to sleep well. with a. i am pretty sure it'd have been horror for both me and her, because she is just one of those people who can't relax easily. i like to think that it's because she is someone who thinks a lot about everything and thus can't switch of those thoughts that quickly ...
anyway, her sleep also got worse at about four months, before that she almost slept through the night. and it only got better very gradually. now she's been sleeping through the night almost every night for a couple of yours, and the time of night wakings seems long in the past and almost forgotten, but at the time, it seemed to be lasting forever ...
as for amy chua, i read parts of the tiger mom book back when it came out ... always wondered, if her children hadn't been intelligent/talented enough to have the chance to keep up with her expectations, what would she have done then? and also - if she says you should expect your child to be the best in the class - if you are the only one and the child manages, fine, but what if everyone expected that? then every class would have one kid who manages to fulfil that expectation, and 24 (or however many kids there are per class) who are made to feel like failures?
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Post by rikita on Oct 12, 2018 10:53:44 GMT 2
as for learning, i learned what gaslighting is yesterday. i had heard the term so often lately, and didn't know it, so i looked it up.
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Post by tzarine on Oct 15, 2018 2:35:41 GMT 2
that we were on czech soil today bc the bohemian hall is also the consul's residence
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Post by tzarine on Oct 16, 2018 18:03:18 GMT 2
japan now owns the most powerful passport
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Post by Netsuke on Oct 18, 2018 5:43:58 GMT 2
I have learnt Our Lumi has been hiding her light under a bushel!
You can purchase a Silver Set of Two Lumi Side Plates from the UK for $9.50!
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Post by lumi on Oct 18, 2018 14:28:56 GMT 2
I have learnt Our Lumi has been hiding her light under a bushel! You can purchase a Silver Set of Two Lumi Side Plates from the UK for $9.50! Is hiding the light under a bushel a well known saying? Either way, is best go check out these side plates and see if in happy having my name associated with them. You can also buy lumi bedside clocks/lights, one of which I have and another which my baby has. They did sunsets and sunrises and do decreasing and increasing nature sounds. Very happy having my name associated with these!
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Post by tzarine on Oct 18, 2018 19:43:06 GMT 2
lumi has closed in new york
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Post by Netsuke on Oct 19, 2018 6:06:07 GMT 2
I have learnt Our Lumi has been hiding her light under a bushel! You can purchase a Silver Set of Two Lumi Side Plates from the UK for $9.50! Is hiding the light under a bushel a well known saying? Yes, pretty much. It's an old English proverb. Dad used to say it.
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Post by slowcoach on Oct 19, 2018 7:53:29 GMT 2
It is from a gospel parable :
"Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick, and it lighteth all them which are in the house." (William Tyndale Translation)
A bushel being a dry measure of volume used for grain etc., it equals 4 pecks, (of "you must eat a peck of dirt", fame), or 8 gallons. One upturned being quite big enough to hide a lighted candle.
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Post by lumi on Oct 19, 2018 9:04:53 GMT 2
Hmmmm, I've either not come across the saying before or forgotten. Will try to use out myself this week so that I remember it!
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Post by slowcoach on Oct 22, 2018 10:25:40 GMT 2
That confabulation has a medical meaning, that differs from merely chatting.
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Post by slowcoach on Oct 23, 2018 5:51:12 GMT 2
How it is that muscles undergoing vigorous exercise doesn't suck all the glucose out of the blood, (when the muscle exhausts its local glycogen storage), causing a hypo and fainting.
Only in outline but I think enough of the basics to be able to add in the details.
I just hope I have it right.
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Post by tzarine on Jan 8, 2019 0:30:12 GMT 2
what wotcher means
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Post by Voy on Jan 8, 2019 5:15:02 GMT 2
the rules of Bocce
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